I have no white friends. There, I said it. Am I ashamed of that, no not really. Do I want to not have white friends, no. I just don’t. My big girl and I have had this conversation quite a few times. Her and I both recall the last white friend we’ve had was in elementary school. The time when we didn’t know about skin color, we weren’t aware of status or class. We just knew that we wanted to be around that person. Like my daughter, after elementary, things started to shift and white friends became associates, passer-by hellos; but no genuine, I’m here for you, lets go hang out, friendships.
So, what can I equate that to? Well, after thinking on it, praying, hearing messages about racism throughout my life, I’ve concluded that deep down inside all of us, white, black, yellow and red, we are all racist. To take Christ out of a situation is like removing the earth from under your feet and floating in space. What’s the purpose, where will you go, what’s the end goal, there’s nothing there. So therefore, I can not take him out of the equation. He is in everything, and everything is him. So when I make my point, my references are based on the Word of God. With that said, our racism as people is our sin. It’s because of sin we have this innate nature to do whats wrong. Paul says it this way, “The trouble is with me, for I am all too human, a slave to sin. I don’t really understand myself, for I want to do what is right, but I don’t do it. Instead, I do what I hate….18 And I know that nothing good lives in me, that is, in my sinful nature. 20 But if I do what I don’t want to do, I am not really the one doing wrong; it is sin living in me that does it.” Romans 7:15-21.
Merriam-Webster gives two definitions of racism. 1: belief that certain races or people are by birth and nature superior to others. 2: discrimination or hatred based on race. These definitions beg to examine ourselves truly. It made me examine myself. Whether it was in response to someone treating me this way or in response to what I’ve experienced. Either, it doesn’t matter, I have a choice to use the power that is within me that Paul speaks about that makes me a slave to sin or I can choose the answer, Jesus Christ. Romans 7:24-25 Over the years I’ve chosen that strong power, thinking that I was better because I’m black. It had nothing to do with how much money I had in my account, how many degrees I had, I thought I was better because I was black and I was born into a race that was by our nature superior to whites because of how we have been treated by some of them. Of course, i never spoke this out loud, or even said it to myself. It was just those subtle thoughts that came to mind when I got rejected from a white friend of “I don’t need their friendships, they’re just mad cause they don’t look like me.” or hearing that “black people dominate in so many areas, not just sports or education we are better at a lot of things.” “We are more Christian because we don’t treat people like they do.” Ouch. That hurts to type, but, it’s freeing to admit.
Romans 12:2 Don’t copy the behavior and customs of this world, but let God transform you into a new person by changing the way you think.
Now comes the easy part, renewing my mind. If I claim to be a follower of Christ I must be changed. Not physically but spiritually. In my mind, in my thinking, in my actions. Pastor Michael Todd has recently said in his sermon to “take the risk.” Risk being uncomfortable to be comfortable. Have the conversations. Spend some time genuinely getting to know someone that is not like yourself. The common ground may not be skin color or how many kids we have, but the common ground should be Christ. We are Believers first, everything else is a noun. Ask the questions, speak, think, love, because Jesus is love. Lets get back to elementary. I want my daughters to go into the world looking at each person the same without having a thought of who they can and can not have as friends. I don’t want to engrave in their deep seeded thoughts that they are better than anyone because of. Black or white, we must take the step, if it’s not reciprocated, still choose love. Still be who Christ has called you to be. You never know how you may be of help calling someone to seek Christ. That’s what it’s all about! Bringing people to him. Not just black people or white people, but ALL people. When we get to heaven, there will be all shades of color but one function, and that is to serve our Lord.
My perspective is biblical, if you disagree then your perspective may be led by your flesh. And that is something I don’t want to do, be led by my flesh. We build up anger, rage, malice and continue a cycle of the world, of hate, bigotry and racism. Lets choose Gods way. Let’s have a Kingdom focus for all areas of our lives. Its sad to see the suffering of so many people in this world by the hands of other people. We have to get back to Christ. I’m talking to my fellow believers because we should know better. We should do better! How can we change a world without changing ourselves. We are no more than hypocrites and the world looks to us in no better light. Let’s not dumb down our Christianity our faith or the church. Let your light shine. Matthew 5:14-16, “You are the light of the world-like a city on a hilltop that cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp and then puts it under a basket. Instead, a lamp is placed on a stand, where it gives light to everyone in the house. In the same way, let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven.”
For His Glory,