My daughter and I are reading a devotional about relationships. She, like many other young girls has the desire to one day be married. I’m joyful about this. She also knows that if the Lord does not send the Godly man her way, He has other plans for her life, and she will not look at it as if there is something wrong with her. Her mission is just different. You have to instill this truth into your daughters mamas. Make sure they know that everyone is not suppose to be married, sometimes our call is to be solo and devoted all to the Kingdom. Which, should be when you’re married as well, we should pursue the Kingdom, but as Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians 7:33 …“a woman who has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.” So our attention would be divided. It goes on to say other things about marriage and it’s a good thing. That’s for another post though.
Now that is out of the way, I want to focus our attention on to relationships. The example I set before my daughters is my own. Moms, there is no better or greater example of mistakes made and how God turned them around, you can show to your daughters then your own. Don’t hide your past or your mistakes. Either they will learn from you, or on their own. Like I’ve mention in a previous post, it’s important that my girls know that I’m not perfect and have never been. If I could do it over I would. I did not know what to look for in a Godly man, i did not know the heartache and separation it would cause between Christ and I. The devotional we are reading made a statement that has stuck with me, it says, “…measure any relationship you desire by the standards of scripture.” That’s deep, right?! Literally, take the bible, hold it up to this guy that’s trying to woo you, and read a few scriptures like 1 Peter 3:7, James 1:19-20, Ephesians 4:26, 1 Timothy 3:2, Matthew 19:5, Romans 12:9-21, Ephesians 5:25-30, and lets not forget the famous 1 Corinthians 13:4-8. These are just a few. The bible gives us so many more scriptures to make a list of, on what a husband should be and vice versa. If we don’t follow those, we are only hurting ourselves.
“Daughters of Jerusalem, I charge you: Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires.” Song of Solomon 8:4
In 2 Corinthians 6 it tells us to not team up with those who are unbelievers. The devotional asked the question, “What fellowship does Christ have with satan or does a believer have with an unbeliever?” You can’t have fellowship with unbelievers. There is always a conflict of interest. There will always be something small in discussion that turns into something big in terms of one another’s beliefs. I can say, this causes heartache that the Lord does not want for us. We don’t want to rush love or awaken it until it’s time. Teach your daughters not to be so anxious to be in a relationship, because their anxiousness will override wisdom. Then we make a decision to be with someone based on our feelings and not on Truth. We know what truth is, God’s word, His love. So, if they aren’t coming correct in truth, you gotta keep it moving daughters. You, we, are daughters of Christ. There is a standard that we must live by and a standard that any young man that approaches us must live by as well in order to have a Kingdom focused relationship that leads to marriage. Don’t settle just for the sake of being with someone, settle for Gods best. Allow His good book to be the guideline and instructions for your decisions in life. Mothers, pray for your daughters future husbands now, pray that they are being raised in a home that is faith-filled and they are getting the same teachings as your daughters. Pray that their love for God rules their lives, because if they love the Lord, they will love our daughters.
For His Glory,