Mean Girls

My oldest daughter had the pleasure of dealing with her first “mean girl” experience. Unfortunately, it was at church. Not that it shouldn’t be, but I always think, “of all places”?! My past response to any type of rudeness or disrespect from a mean girl was to tell them off and I’ve even gotten into a couple of fights. Crazy, right? I can’t imagine my daughter doing either of those things. I always tell them that they are so much more wiser than I was at 14 and 10 years old. Her response to the situation shocked me.

Since my girls are homeschooled fortunately they don’t get to experience a lot of bullying or bad behavior. I’m grateful for that. I’m also aware that I can’t keep them from not experiencing some of this. It surprised me, but then again it didn’t surprise me because we live in a world and attend a church of imperfect people. Again, my response as a 14 year old would have been totally different. After she informed me of what was going on, we spoke for hours about the whys and reasons girls are the way they are. I could write a whole couple of post on that issue. But ultimately, I let her know that what she experiences and how she responds to that experience will determine the outcome of it. When we respond in love, we may not always get love back, but the outcome is a clear conscience, a grateful and humble heart and a chance to share the love of Christ with others as to why you’ve responded the way you did.

Girls are mean, no matter how you slice it. My daughter has tough skin and didn’t let what this young lady was doing bother her. She gave grace, she gave forgiveness, she even gave kindness in genuinely complimenting her. I can say, I was one proud mama. I have to remember that what I’ve taught her is what she’s going to do. So even as she’s telling me what was happening and I’m boiling with anger, I know her response is the right response. I was “in my feelings” more than she was and it didn’t happen to me. But that’s just the mama bear in me, right? Out of this rude encounter, it grew her faith in knowing that God loves and has even the meanest person in his thoughts. In turn, it grew my faith in understanding that no matter what people say or do we love, we don’t repay evil for evil. Luke 6:27-36, …”love your enemies, do good to those who persecute you…” Reading the word, but not doing what it says is sin. James 4:17. I don’t want to live in sin, nor do I want my daughters to live in sin.

Think about the encounters you have on a daily basis with people from all walks of life. Involve God’s word in that situation and watch how it changes your perspective. Little by little, you’ll start to apply the word to your daily actions, bring Christ into your reality, allow him to be the center. It shouldn’t take a bullying situation for it to happen, let it be any little thing or big thing because God is concerned about it all.

Luke 12: 6-7 “Are not five sparrows sold for two? And not one of them is forgotten before God. Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered”

For His Glory,

Kristin J.

2 thoughts on “Mean Girls”

  1. Great job with teaching your oldest how to respond and walk in love no matter what. This is a great perspective: Think about the encounters you have on a daily basis with people from all walks of life. Involve God’s word in that situation and watch how it changes your perspective. Little by little, you’ll start to apply the word to your daily actions, bring Christ into your reality, allow him to be the center.

    1. Thank you, Tracy! It is so important to live by the word and allow it to do its work in our lives. If we are patient, God will make moves on our behalf and things will work out. Be blessed

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